Sunday, October 12, 2014

Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep.  When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his and her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

 Mary Ellen O'Toole, PhD,  
When law enforcement seemingly takes weeks, months and years to track down, catch and prosecute an offender, people are left with many questions. They have the same questions when a high-profile defendant is acquitted or when a dangerous person is released early from prison and then goes on to commit another violent crime.
How do dangerous people avoid detection? Why does it take so long to catch them? And how do they manage to convince a jury of their innocence or a parole board of their rehabilitation?
I spent my career studying the criminal mind—especially the minds of psychopaths, people who lack a conscience. People—especially psychopaths—get away with their crimes for the following reasons:
1. They know how to blend in. They look normal and appear normal. Dangerous people do not look any different than non-dangerous people. They can be married, live in houses, and have pets and children.
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2. They excel at impression management. They know what to say and do to convince others around them that they are not a threat. They disarm people with their charm.
3. They tend to land on their feet. They are cool under crisis. Even if they commit murder by accident, they are not the types of people who will seem agitated or sad. Rather, they think strategically, realizing that they must come up with a story quickly in order to divert attention away from themselves. They mislead police, stage crime scenes and destroy evidence. They don't want to get caught and will stop at nothing to avoid getting caught.
4. Evidence isn't as abundant as people think. Despite what gets portrayed on television, most crime scenes are not covered in fingerprints, DNA, and blood. Sometimes we don't even have a body. Forensic evidence is very fragile and it doesn't last forever. It can be destroyed by the weather, the environment, the perpetrator and even wild animals.
5. Witnesses are often reluctant to come forward. Many people who could help with an investigation often don't. They sometimes don't help because they don't realize what they know is valuable. Other times they don't help because they fear what might happen if they do. Or they might simply be loyal to the perpetrator.

Saturday, January 11, 2014



Saturday, January 4, 2014

New Year's Prayer
by Charlotte Anselmo
Thank you Lord for giving me
The brand new year ahead
Help me live the way I should
As each new day I tread.
Give me gentle wisdom
That I might help a friend
Give me strength and courage
So a shoulder I might lend.
The year ahead is empty
Help me fill it with good things
Each new day filled with joy
And the happiness it brings.
Please give the leaders of our world
A courage born of peace
That they might lead us gently
And all the fighting cease.
Please give to all upon this earth
A heart that's filled with love
A gentle happy way to live
With Your blessings from above.
The New Year lies before you,
like a spotless track of snow...
be careful how you tread on it,
for every mark will show.

Saturday, December 21, 2013


I see the countless Christmas Trees around the world below,
with tiny lights, like heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away that tear,
for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear,but
the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
for it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me. I see the pain inside your heart,
but I am not so far away. We really aren't apart. So be happy for me dear ones.
You know I hold you dear,
and be glad I'm spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.
I send you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above.
I send you each a memory, of my undying love.
After all "Love" is the gift, more precious than pure gold.
It was always most import in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do,
for I can't count the blessing or love he has for each of you.
So, have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear.
Remember, I'm spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013


I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below, with tiny lights, like Heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
the sight is so spectacular, please wipe away the tears for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear, but the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring, for it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart, but I am not so far away, we really aren't apart.
So be happy for me, dear ones, you know I hold you dear, and be glad I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I sent you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above. I sent you each a memory of my undying love.
After all, love is a gift more precious than pure gold. It was always more important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do. For I can't count the blessings or love He has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear. Remember I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

Monday, November 11, 2013


 Today, we honor all the brave men and women who have served and sacrificed in defense of our country, their fellow citizens and the American values that make our nation truly exceptional.

Whether fighting for freedom in times of war or upholding it in times of peace, the veterans of our United States Armed Forces have shaped our nation’s character and secured the blessings that make us uniquely American. It is because of our heroes in uniform that we are fortunate every day to live in the freest country on earth.

Veterans Day and every day, let us express gratitude to the veterans – past, present and future – whose service we honor, especially our Marine family...Dad, William Kenneth, along with sons,  David, Billy and Charley.  We are forever thankful and proud...

Sunday, September 15, 2013


My painful memories, the same day every year
it's the day that I have now come to fear

 I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday and days before that too,

I think of you in silence I often speak your name
All I have are memories and your picture in a frame

Your memory is my keepsake with which I'll never part
God has you in His keeping I have you in my heart.

But yes, this is the day I now come to fear…

Tuesday, August 20, 2013


For the Miller Family, Justice May Be a Fleeting Thing

In August 1972, 27- year-old Marine Sgt. William Miller returned to Camp Lejeune, North Carolina following a deployment in Okinawa. But when he arrived at the home he shared with his wife Vickie and Wendy, their 1-year-old daughter, he found that while he was away another Marine, George Hayden, had taken up residence in his house.
Hayden and Vickie were former high school sweethearts. With Miller gone they decided to renew their relationship. Hayden moved in. And according to Miller’s family, he was soon signing his name to Miller’s checks.
“He stole my brother’s home, wife and child, and money,” said Charlie Miller, the youngest of six in Miller’s family.
Sgt. Miller gave the interloper a beating and threw him out of his house. Vickie opted to go with Hayden, packed up the baby and moved out. Humiliated, Hayden told Miller he would get revenge with an M-16.
Miller had lost two daughters in a previous marriage and had no intentions of losing another one. He began to build a custody case against Vickie and a criminal fraud case against Hayden. He gave the alleged evidence to a neighbor for safekeeping.
On Sept. 16, 1972, Miller received a call from his estranged wife to meet him on Western Boulevard. Less than 20 minutes later, Miller was found dead in the street, shot twice with rounds from an M-16. A few days later, Hayden showed up at the neighbor’s house and took the alleged evidence Miller had collected against him. Detectives suspected Hayden of killing Miller, but couldn’t gather sufficient evidence for an arrest.
For nearly 40 years Miller’s murder remained unsolved. During that time Hayden did quite well for himself. He married Vickie. They later divorced, but kept in contact after the split. He retired from the Marine Corps and joined the Carteret County Sheriff’s Department. He went on to be police chief in Cape Carteret and Belhaven. But he couldn’t shake local, state and federal investigators who came around every few years asking the same question: Where were you the night William Miller died?
Sharron Aguilar, Miller’s sister, refused to let the case die. She spent years compiling documents in the case and eventually turned them over to a local newspaper. The Daily News ran two cold case articles in the summer of 2008 that resulted in new information from a witness previously unknown to law enforcement. A whirlwind investigation by the Onslow County Sheriff’s Department, Naval Criminal Investigative Services and the North Carolina SBI, resulted in the arrests of Vickie, Hayden and Rodger Gill, another former Marine and friend of Hayden, on first degree murder and conspiracy charges.
The charges against Vickie and Gill were subsequently dropped. But relying heavily on circumstantial evidence, prosecutor’s brought Hayden to trial on the murder charge. Chief Assistant District Attorney Ernie Lee told the jury, “Miller survived two tours in Vietnam, then returned to Onslow County where he was not killed by the enemy with an AK-47, but by a fellow Marine with an M-16.”
Nearly 38 years after the murder and after three days of deliberations, the jury convicted Hayden of first-degree murder. On May 26, 2010 he was sentenced to life in prison.
Following the conviction and sentencing, a jubilant Sharron Aguilar said, “I never lost hope; I always knew we’d get here.”
But the relief the Miller family felt at having received justice for their loved one was relatively short- lived. Hayden appealed and on June 7, 2011, the North Carolina Appeals Court reversed the conviction, stating in its ruling, “Accordingly, we hold that the State failed to present sufficient evidence from which a rational juror could conclude that defendant was the perpetrator of the victim’s murder.”
Onslow County has submitted the case to the North Carolina Supreme Court for review. Hayden remains behind bars pending a decision by that body. If they agree with the ruling of the Appeals Court, he could be a free man in a matter of months.
I recently spoke with Sharron Aguilar about her experience so far in dealing with the justice system. Her comments are below.
“Our family waited thirty-eight years for justice. We fought a long, hard, uphill battle. Finally, on May 26, 2010, we heard the word Guilty. And George Hayden was given life in prison. Our prayers were answered. We started to breathe easier knowing he was locked up. And then, to our horror, on June 7, 2011, we heard that the Appeals Court reversed the conviction.
“We put our case in the hands of twelve men and women who were selected to the jury, giving up their time to see justice carried out. Now those twelve people are told they were wrong to convict. The Court stated that, ‘A rational juror could not conclude that the defendant was the perpetrator of the victim’s murder.’ The jury verdict was unanimous, so all twelve jurors are irrational according to the Court.
“The ruling also states that a weapon was never produced. Yet defendants are convicted every day without the murder weapon being introduced into evidence. It further states there was not sufficient evidence to convict. That means the trial judge must also be irrational or incompetent because he denied the defense’s motion for a mistrial due to insufficient evidence.
“I remember not long ago another murder trial with pretty much the same evidence. Scott Peterson was convicted and given a death sentence. His case was stated as purely circumstantial. No crime scene, murder weapon or cause of death. Yet his conviction stands.
“And I find it very strange that this appeal was heard and decided so fast. Most convicts have to wait years for their appeal to be acted on.
“I want to believe in our justice system. I know it has flaws, but I never knew what a nightmare it is for the victims’ families. How hard they have to fight to be heard. They have no rights, they cannot appeal a verdict, they cannot get a court appointed attorney. The list is endless. They have experienced the violent death of a loved one and their lives have been changed forever.
“September 16th will be the thirty-ninth anniversary of my brother’s death and we are still fighting for justice. Please pray that it is not denied.”
Note: The North Carolina Supreme Court refused to review the lower court's decision. George Hayden was released from prison and faces no further legal jeopardy in the death of Sgt. Miller.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

   "Look for me through your heart"

I feel you all around, i feel you near
You are there wiping my ever tear
You wrap your loving Angel wings and arms around me
Holding me, comforting me..if only i could see
You are sitting beside me,
laughing along with m ewatching the tv
You are in the park,telling me to let myself be free
You are the sunshine that brings warmth into my days
You are the rain that is feeling when im afraid
You are there when i call out " i need you"
You help me through
You are there inside my loved ones
I can feel you, while we're having fun
I look around but i cant see you
How can i see a spirit that is see-through
But then i look inside my heart ,
there you are
and there deep inside we'll never be apart
So when i feel lost and lonely
I'll remember that you're always all around
And in my heart and memories too
Is where you'll always be found
Now you're my Guardian Angel, flying free
~ Charlene Stannard

Tuesday, April 2, 2013


As I sit in heaven
And watch you everyday
I try to let you know with signs
I never went away..
I hear you when you’re laughing
And I watch you when you sleep
I even place my arms around you
To calm you as you weep..
I see you wish the days away
Begging to have me home
So I try to send you signs
So you know you’re not alone..
Don’t feel guilty that you have
Life that was denied to me
Heaven is truly beautiful
Just you wait and see..
So live your life, laugh again
Enjoy yourself, be free..
Then I know with every breath you take
You’ll be 
 taking one for me…

Thursday, March 28, 2013


 If There Are Roses In Heaven
Will You Send One Just For Me
So I Can Hold It Close To My Heart
Where You Will Always Be
I Will Lay It On My Pillow Each Night
As The Angels Tuck Me In
So I Will Know That You Are Near Me
And Feel Your Presence Once Again
I Am Thankful for The Time We Did Have
But I Know God Needed You Too
I Will Always Remember My Precious Brother
Whose Love Was Honest And True

Billy Received His Angel Wings on 9/16/1972

Monday, January 21, 2013

"There is no crueler tyranny than that which is exercised under cover of law   and with the colors of justice ..."